Peace comes with taking things one at a time.
Toss out all the plans, all the multi-tasking, and bask in the simple oneness of being here in the now.
Here you are. Now. You’re not where you were three years ago or will be two months from now. You’re just here now.
If you just did one thing well today, you had a successful day.
I think to-do lists are fine time management tools. They work perfectly well if we create them in a way that there are just a few really important items on top and nothing more. That way when you have accomplished those important tasks you are freed up to enjoy your life. You may create a list for the next day but then stop. Your work is done. Do not worry about anything you did not get to today. Don’t even try to multi-task. I think multi-tasking is one of the biggest anxiety producers of this generation. Just don’t do it.
Time management for peace in a nutshell:
1. The night before or first thing in the morning, decide on the top three most important things you need to do for the day.
2. Write them down.
3. Do them. You may cross them off your list as you accomplish them.
4. Your work is done.
All you have is today. Do not stress about tomorrow, or the next day.
Like many of you, I am an ambitious, creative type of person. Ideas fascinate me. I am intellectually curious and always thinking about things and new ideas. This in itself is not a bad thing. However, where I get myself into trouble is when I either go into my past, project into the future with my thinking, or put so much on my plate that I end up overwhelming myself and my brain wants to explode or shut down. This is not the best recipe for a restful night of sleep.
The title of this post refers to the fact that I slept great last night. And I did! Here is why: I decided to give myself and my mind a break and just focus on The NOW. Very simple. I have this one moment. I don ‘t have to worry about what I need to accomplish this summer before the new school year begins. I don’t have to have the meaning of life all figured out. I don’t have to fret about the mistakes I’ve made or stressing about my mile long to do list….
I just have now, this moment. It can be used to do nothing (which is quite blissful when I permit myself to do nothing). Or, it can be used to do one thing: One task, One activity- not multiple tasks. This is very liberating. One day at a time and one step at a time thinking removes the enormous burden of thinking we have to have it all figured out (and not just this moment all figured out but the next five years or rest of our lives figured out- ugh! I get a headache thinking of that kind of pressure).
My bedside reading last night consisted of reading from the great classic, How To Stop Worrying And Start Living by Dale Carnegie.
I would like to share a few nuggets from Mr. Carnegie’s book with you:
1. “Shut the iron doors on the past and the future. Live in Day-tight compartments” (P.11)
2. “Think”, said Dante, “that this day will never dawn again” today is our most precious possession. It is our only sure possession.(P.10)
3. “Every day is a new life to a wise man” (P.8)
4. “One step enough for me”, taken from a church hymn (P.4)
5. “Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand” ~ Thomas Carlyle (P.1)
6. “Have no thought (anxiety) for the morrow” ~ Jesus (Pages1-2)
It’s quiet, take care of yourself time. Get out your coffee or tea and journal. Sit and breathe for a few minutes. Clear your mind. One technique that really helps me center quickly is to ask myself: What will my next thought be? Then just wait (this idea I learned from Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now). It really works. Another meditation technique I like when I don’t have a lot of time is simply closing my eyes and going through the colors of the rainbow.
Now that you are centered, it is time to write. This session is going to answer the question : “What am I here for?”.
That’s it. I encourage you to not censor yourself. Just write down as much as comes out. It could come out as a long list of quickly jotted down ideas or a slowly written essay, depending on your mood.
I don’t have much time and I want to just see what will come out if I write quickly without thinking too much.
This is how mine would look right now.
I Am here for:
I could continue but it is now your turn…
Have a blessed day.
Debra : )
A simple thought for this afternoon:
All we really have is this moment. Right now. Wherever you are or whatever you are doing, take a moment, breathe and say “thank you”. Smile. You are alive. It is a good day.
Debra : )
Visualization is nothing more than picturing something in your mind. Hopefully, it is something good for you and your life and the world!
Tonight, as you ease into your bedtime routine, get out your journal and imagine and feel thankful for all of the things you have in your life already and also all the things you want to manifest in your life…just close your eyes for a moment before you start writing.
Imagine your ideal life. Breathe….thank the divine for that abundant life you already have and breathe…
Now, when you are ready, open your eyes and begin writing in your journal affirmative sentences that all begin with:
“I Am happy and grateful to have….” or “I Am happy and grateful to be…”
Note, you are stating something positive that you either already have or want in your life, you are saying it in present tense (you feel it NOW), and you are stating it with gratitude. That is a very powerful affirmation to write and visualize.
Write as many of these sentences as you want. Then drift off to sleep with these wonderful visualizations in your consciousness…
Source: The Secret, Rhonda Byrne, P.80
Debra : )
There are many things we can do to promote better sleep for ourselves. One of the best ways that I can think of is to have a good day. At the end of the day when we are ready to retire- if we feel good about how the day went, our chances of sleeping soundly when our heads hit the pillow increase greatly. Being present and in The Now is a great way to spend your day.
I am a firm believer of a day well spent results in a great night of sleep. Over time, days well spent turn into a life well spent and feeling healthy and well rested in the process. Isn’t that what we all want?
Being Present. Fretting about old stuff: mistakes, regrets, bad experiences, bad relationships, etc. will only bog us down and keep us from living our lives to the fullest now. Conversely, too much fear and worry about our future will result in the same result: being stuck.
Who wants to be stuck? There are many great books out there about being in The Now (anything written by Eckhart Tolle is highly recommended). I have read and studied and applied many of these ideas. I find that staying in the present moment, or The Now, has been one of the most helpful- if not the most helpful thing I have done for my life and all of my anxiety and insomnia challenges. If I feel myself getting focused on the past or future, I don’t let my cerebral self linger there for too long. At best, it my be a little indulgent “in my head” daydreaming time. At worse, it can result in great sadness, fear, anger, melancholy, and anxiety. When I feel myself getting into any of these states I know my mind is not fully in The Now. It is amazing how much better I feel when I am focused on the present. In the present, there is rarely the need to brood about something. I simply AM. Life just IS. And it is grand just as IT IS (at least most of the time) .
I believe simple is best so let’s boil this down into 5 ideas that you can use to be more in the Present:
Be present and in the Now today and sleep well tonight. Repeat tomorrow. And the next day, and the next. Result: a magnificent life well lived!
Debra : )