Some of us get our energy from being ”out there” a lot: talking and interacting with others frequently, going to parties, etc. (extroverted)
Then there are those of us who primarily are most centered and get our energy from within: from peace, quiet, and solitude.(introverted)
There is no right or wrong way to be. We are just wired how we are wired.
I would characterize myself as being more introverted than extroverted. That does not mean that I am not friendly or a total loner who does not seek the companionship of others. On the contrary, I treasure my husband, family, friends, neighbors, colleagues, etc.
What it does mean, is that I have a high need for alone time to: process life, nurture and replenish my soul and spirit, and gather my energy and strength. If I don’t get this time I am downright irritable and off balance. I appreciate socializing but in small amounts. Large parties wear me out. I can have a good time at them but it is not my preferred way to spend my time.
Is there something wrong with me? Over the years I have asked myself that question from time to time because I think our society tends to affirm the extroverts of the world more.
In a recent post I wrote about accepting ourselves. With self acceptance, comes true peace.Otherwise we are stuck in a state of constant anxiety and worry.
If you are a person who is introverted, I encourage you to embrace that part of yourself. You are most likely a sensitive, introspective, thoughtful, and creative person.
When you doubt yourself (and we all do), affirm yourself by declaring: “I AM enough!”. Write it in your journal. Feel those words. Believe them.
For those of us who are prone to anxiety, shyness, people pleasing, insecurity, etc., it is not always easy being in our skins.
We are having to spend a lot of energy putting on our masks for the world. We are worried about what others are thinking of us. We are wondering if we are measuring up or good enough.
Well, this Friday night I declare a celebration of you! You can start right now by accepting and realizing that being you is the best possible place to be.
Here are five ways to get more than comfortable in your own skin:
Debra : )
“Fortune favors the bold, but abandons the timid” ~ Latin Proverb
Some thoughts on timidity:
Most of us feel timid once in a while. Things at work are stressful and overwhelming. Perhaps we are feeling intimidated by someone or a situation. When you do feel timid, that doesn’t mean you are a small or weak person. You are just a human.
Timidity is when we are not feeling completely confident about ourselves. It is a little shyness, fear, and anxiety all mixed together. I know I feel timid from time to time. I seem to be the most vulnerable when I am tired, overworked, or in a new situation.
When you feel timid, go ahead and:
Timidity is worth working on. It is subtle but it can hold you back on living the most fulfilling life possible.
Debra : )
For many of who have anxiety issues, often a source of it is being shy and unsure of ourselves. I spent many years of my life not really speaking up: as a child with my family or at school, at work, in my marriage, etc. I think a lot of us have that “nice person” syndrome. We are afraid to really be ourselves because we want everyone to like us.
As a child and young adult I had a lot of sore throats and strep throat infections. When I was very small, my parents took me to many doctors in Honolulu (where we were living at the time). My parents wanted the doctors to take my tonsils out. They did not and told my folks that I would eventually outgrow these infections. For the most part I did, but was still prone to strep throat well into my twenties. Even now if I am under a lot of stress or overly tired, a sore throat tends to be my first symptom.
Louise Hay in her book, Heal your Body, describes a sore throat as: “the inability to speak up for one’s self. Swallowed anger. Stifled creativity. Refusal to change.”
The affirmation for this condition Ms. Hay prescribes is this:
“It’s okay to make noise. I express myself freely and joyously. I speak up for myself with ease. I express my creativity. I am willing to change.”
If we don’t speak up for ourselves, who will? I am a second grade school teacher. Little children at my school are expected to be quiet a lot of the time (no talking unless called on, no talking in hallways, in the lunchroom etc.). I was one of those well-behaved little children at school. I never acted up. Never got in trouble.
It is important to have a safe learning environment for kids. I understand the need to have order in the classroom. I sometimes wonder, however, if we discourage our young people from talking too much. It is easy to do this at home too when we are busy cooking dinner or reading the paper, doing emails etc. We need quiet and ask the kids to go play outside or tell them”not now, we will talk later”.
Some of us may have been born introverts. Perhaps though we have been conditioned to not speak up. It’s something to think about. We can work on reconditioning our old programming.