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Imagining and accepting the Worst: Stopping Anxiety In It’s Tracks Part two
Published April 23, 2012 | 
This evening we are going to tap into a little more of Dale Carnegie’s wisdom. I would like to share with you a few nuggets I got from his second chapter out of How To Stop Worrying and Start Living
1. When you are stewing and worrying about something, ask yourself: “What is the worst that could happen”?
2. Accept the worst. Yes, it sounds a bit counter intuitive but actually force yourself to imagine the worst and then actually accept it (in your mind) as if it happened… you see if you really accept this worst case scenario you really have nothing left to lose now, do you?
3. From this (low) acceptance point, work on improving things.
*True peace of mind = accepting the worst.
Face the worst and peace will follow!
In peace,
Debra
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An easy technique to stop your monkey mind
Published October 1, 2011 | 
When your mind is spinning on stuff, worrying about the bills or the to do lists or just thinking about stupid things, it is hard to have much peace.
Here is a simple technique to do to stop the monkey mind.
When you find your mind is controlling you, take back control by simply stating: “I Am consciousness”.
It might take a few times to get used to saying it but this statement will effectively stop your mind. It immediately gets you in the now and more present.
Write it down a few times in your journal.
I Am consciousness.
Breathe. Be still for a few moments. Just BE
I have been experimenting with this technique for the last two days and it really works! Try using it right as you are drifting off to sleep too.
In peace,
Debra
Resource: The Power of Decision by Raymond Charles Barker
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Release: Letting it go for peace
Published September 15, 2011 | 
Letting go
release
that is peace.
Holding tightly onto
things, people, or ideas
will only keep us on a tense tightrope
of expectations waiting to be dashed
from circumstances outside of our control.
Why give our peace away to such folly when we can simply let it all go?
Yes, LET IT GO.
In peace,
Debra
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Seventeen things to let go of to get a good night sleep
Published September 7, 2011 | 
To get a good night sleep, here are 17 things to let go of as you turn off your light and put your head on your pillow:
1. Let go of any resentment you are feeling. Just let it go!
2. Any hurt feelings you may have. Let it go. You are safe. You are loved. You are enough. If you need to share something with your spouse or partner, do so. Have them listen. They can hold you. Then let it go. If you are feeling hurt by someone who is far away or not with you, consider writing a letter (just the process of writing itself will be healing). You may or may not decide to send it. Write it, let it go, and go to sleep.
3. Anger
4. Worry about what others are thinking of you. None of your business. Let the whole people pleasing thing go. You can’t please them all- never will.
5. Fear. Imagine the worst thing that can happen and the outcome. Then see yourself deal with it. Now, let it go.
6. Worrying about the future. No reality here. It doesn’t exist. Let it go!
7. Fretting and regretting the past. Again, this is not your reality. This is not your life. This is your mind wanting to play with your peace.
Let it go!
8. Your mile long to do list can be a real sleep thief. Before you turn in, Cross off everything except for maybe the 1,2, or 3 most important things on that list. Tell yourself that even if you just do one of those things the next day, you will have a wonderfully successful day and the rest of the items of the list don’t matter or can wait- yep, let them go!!
9. Criticism of others. It is easy to fall into the blame game. Know that we are all trying our best. Putting our energy into wanting to change others is only setting us up for disappointment and insomnia. It won’t do much for our relationships either. If you are tempted to think or say a critical thought about another, imagine them as an innocent five year old child.
10. Criticism of yourself. Don’t spend another tortured night beating yourself up. It is cruel. You don’t deserve it. Give yourself the love and peace you deserve. Let the critical self talk go. Now!
11. Inhibitions. Are you holding yourself back? Consider letting go of the voice that is always telling you “no”. Go to sleep tonight with a smile at the thought of doing things you want to do.
12. Let go of clutter, anything that no longer serves you.
13. Let go of perfectionism
14. Let go of over committing yourself or your family. Your kids don’t have to be involved in every extracurricular activity your community has to offer. You don’t have to bring work home.
15. Let go of needing to be in control all the time
16. Let go of high expectations. This can be exhausting! Let things be as they are. Let them go.
17.Let go of caring too much.
Let it go. Breathe. Let it go. Ahhh… Let it all go… Your life and peace of mind and getting a good night sleep are much more important than any of the nonsense listed above.
Good night.
In peace,
Debra
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Leave a commentI Am peace because of these ten reasons. A journal writing exercise
Published August 10, 2011 | 
In your journal write “I Am peace because….” Then list anything that comes to mind.
My journal entry this evening may begin like this-
I Am peace because:
1. I am focused on my journal writing and nothing else.
2. I know I Am enough
3. I know that what others think of me is none of my business
4. I only have this moment so I will not squander it by worrying about some future projection.
5. I just took a lavender bath
6. I am enjoying some quiet time before having dinner with my family.
7. I am loved.
8. I love myself.
9. I am taking action on making my dreams come true.
10. I am surrounded by many supportive people in my life.
Your turn. You Are peace because…
In Peace,
Debra
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More love equals less anxiety
Published June 24, 2011 | 
What is anxiety?
I have personally experienced anxiety in different forms such as:
1. a general feeling of un-ease
2. Worrying about a particular thing over and over again
3. Feeling shy and almost panicky at the thought of having to do something (such as take an exam, socialize at a party, etc.)
4. Heart racing and feeling like I am going to have a heart attack
5. hyperventillating
6. emotional outbursts
7. Not being able to sleep
8. A spacey, flighty feeling; not being able to concentrate
Although I can't say that I am 100% anxiety-free, I am much better than I was, say five or ten years ago (my anxiety was probably at its worst in my early-mid thirties).
If I can pinpoint a few things that have particularly helped me stay centered and grounded they would be:
1, Surround myself with positive, supportive people (I do not need negative or emotional vampires in my life).
2. Writing in my journal.
3. Practicing yoga and meditation
4. Praying
5. And most of all, consciously keeping love as my guiding compass. If we stay tuned into the frequency of love, fear and anxiety have less of a chance of getting to us.
How to keep love first and foremost?
1. See the good in situations whenever possible
2. See everybody as a loving person
3. Focus on the love that is in my own heart
4. Think of what I love, who I love, all of the wonderful qualities about my loved ones...
5. List all of the things I am thankful for.
So, the equation for the day is this: more love = less anxiety, more peace
Have a blessed day,
Debra
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Posted in anxiety, Happiness, insomnia, Love, Self-empowerment, Spirituality | anxiety, gratitude, journal writing, love, meditation, panic attacks, peace of mind, worry, Yoga | Leave a commentThe Corridor: A simple visualization exercise to get to sleep fast
Published June 20, 2011 | 
The Corridor: A visualization to relax you and get you to sleep….
Close your eyes and see yourself standing at one end of a long corridor.
Breathe.
Visualize the word “calm” appearing simply in front of you.
With your mind, send the word calm floating down the corridor.
Do not follow it. Just keep watching it float away, down the corridor…
Source: How To Meditate by Paul Roland
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Peace is these 12 things….
Published June 18, 2011 | 
Peace is…
1. savoring simple pleasures
2. being present
3. going at leisurely pace that is right for you (whatever the task is)
4. practicing acceptance
5. practicing forgiveness
6. emptying your cup
7. decluttering and simplifying life as much as you can
8. doing only the things that matter to you
9. knowing you are loved
10. knowing you are safe
11. knowing you are enough
12. not thinking so much
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Posted in Affirmations, anxiety, Happiness, Positive living, Self-empowerment, Spirituality, stress | be happy, declutter, peace, peace of mind, simplify life | Leave a commentOver thinking causes anxiety and insomnia. Here are seven ways to get off the over thinking treadmill.
Published March 5, 2011 | 
Over thinking leads to anxiety and insomnia. What do I mean by over thinking? Do any of these apply to you?
1. You can’t make up your mind about something. There’s just so many options available!
2. You worry about how people will react or what others will think about…
3. You stew in your mind and replay a social interaction that took place recently or a while ago.. (a phone conversation, a conversation at a dinner party or at work, etc.)
4. You are stuck in indecision because you want to make the right decision. What if you are wrong and you make the “wrong” decision? Horror! Better to make no decision at all, then, so your mind tells you.
5. You have a perfectionist streak in your personality and want things just so…
6. You have a hard time being in the present because you are thinking that maybe you should be somewhere else doing something else.
7. You are prone to experiencing buyer’s remorse.
8. You are prone to regret.
9. You have a fear of failing.
10. You are someone who likes to keep your options open…
If any of these apply to you, you are an over thinker. Chances are you could enjoy more peace and more sleep if you could overcome some of these
over thinking habits.
But, HOW?
Here are seven ideas on getting off the over thinking treadmill:
1. Stand tall and think confidently about yourself (you are enough, it doesn’t matter what others think)!
2. Practice making decisions. Even if it is something small like what to order on your dinner menu at a restaurant. Pick something that catches your eye and decisively with enthusiasm order it! Enjoy your meal. Don’t worry about the other things on the menu that you might have ordered or look on at your mate’s or other patrons dinner plates and worry that you could have done better in your dinner selection.
3. Wherever you are and whatever you are doing, be happy with it. You are where you are supposed to be doing what you are supposed to be doing that very moment. It is perfect.
4. If you feel you made a “wrong” decision, think of it in terms of you are getting closer to the “right decision”. Be proud that you are taking some kind of action. The only way to really fail is by practicing inaction. By taking action, you are a success- no matter what the outcome!
5. Try this little trick I learned from Eckhart Tolle’s The Now: Close your eyes and ask yourself : “I wonder what my next thought will be?”. This somehow stops your over thinking monkey mind in its tracks. Try it. It really works.
6. Learn to meditate.
7.Discover a passion and then focus on that one thing. Specialize in something. A focused mind with purpose is one at peace and sleeps well at night.
In peace,
Debra : )
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5 steps to taming the tension in our lives and moving towards tranquility
Published October 17, 2010 | 
Blessed tranquility. When I am stressed and perceive life as being challenging it gets difficult to be serene, peaceful, and tranquil.
When I am in a more peaceful state, I see things more optimistically. There is no question that I am feeling better about myself and my life when I am calm. How to get there?
Today is Sunday, the day for rest. Here are five ideas for taming the tension in your life and moving towards greater tranquility.
- Take proper care of yourself. it is harder to deal with the stress of life if we are not eating, exercising, or sleeping well.
- Be kind (to self and others)
- Practice forgiveness often and learn how to let things go.
- Get centered by nurturing your spiritual life through: reading, meditation, walking, yoga, journal writing, etc.
- Fight well when you are in conflict or having a disagreement with another person. Listen. Perhaps just choose to agree. Is it more important to be right or have peace in your life?
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