Some of us get our energy from being ”out there” a lot: talking and interacting with others frequently, going to parties, etc. (extroverted)
Then there are those of us who primarily are most centered and get our energy from within: from peace, quiet, and solitude.(introverted)
There is no right or wrong way to be. We are just wired how we are wired.
I would characterize myself as being more introverted than extroverted. That does not mean that I am not friendly or a total loner who does not seek the companionship of others. On the contrary, I treasure my husband, family, friends, neighbors, colleagues, etc.
What it does mean, is that I have a high need for alone time to: process life, nurture and replenish my soul and spirit, and gather my energy and strength. If I don’t get this time I am downright irritable and off balance. I appreciate socializing but in small amounts. Large parties wear me out. I can have a good time at them but it is not my preferred way to spend my time.
Is there something wrong with me? Over the years I have asked myself that question from time to time because I think our society tends to affirm the extroverts of the world more.
In a recent post I wrote about accepting ourselves. With self acceptance, comes true peace.Otherwise we are stuck in a state of constant anxiety and worry.
If you are a person who is introverted, I encourage you to embrace that part of yourself. You are most likely a sensitive, introspective, thoughtful, and creative person.
When you doubt yourself (and we all do), affirm yourself by declaring: “I AM enough!”. Write it in your journal. Feel those words. Believe them.
To live a well balanced life by day and sleep restfully at night, it is certainly preferable to live and do the things that put us at our ease (calm, centered, joyful, healthy etc) rather than ones that cause dis-ease (anxiety, insomnia, stress, health challenges, etc.)
Here are some ideas to put you at-ease:
1. Just be. That’s it.
2. You are enough, just as you are.
3. When things bother you, let them go as quickly as possible. Tomorrow, next week, or next year will it matter at all?
4. Please yourself and God. Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks.
5. Doing your best does not mean having to be perfect.
6. Do what makes you giddy.
7. Do things for no other reason but you want to.
8. Think of all the good you do. This world and the people you touch on a daily basis would not be the same without YOU.
9. If you are making “mistakes” and “bad decisions” that is fantastic- you are acting and doing things that are bringing you closer to success.
10. Take care of yourself. The world will not stop turning on its axis if you permit yourself to unplug and recharge a bit (that hot bath and romance novel awaits).
In peace (and I’m taking a hot bubble bath as soon as I post this!),
For those of us who are prone to anxiety, shyness, people pleasing, insecurity, etc., it is not always easy being in our skins.
We are having to spend a lot of energy putting on our masks for the world. We are worried about what others are thinking of us. We are wondering if we are measuring up or good enough.
Well, this Friday night I declare a celebration of you! You can start right now by accepting and realizing that being you is the best possible place to be.
Here are five ways to get more than comfortable in your own skin:
Debra : )