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A couple of days ago, we published a guest post by Amber Ferguson: In Less Than a Second, My Life Changed Forever…
I had never heard of ASMR before and a lot of our readers had questions about it as well after this post was published. I’ve asked Amber to give us a little more information about it, so here is her follow up post…
ASMR is an acronym for “Autonomous sensory meridian response,” which is a neologism only as recently as 2010; however, technical jargon aside, ASMR is really just soft sound I’ve found is capable of inducing relaxation and sleep in this old insomniac.
If you visit youtube and run a search for ASMR, you’ll get results ranging from soft music to the sounds of softly crumpled paper to people speaking with soft voices or in whispers. There’s a huge variety to choose from, and both men and women have uploaded them. Originally, I was skeptical of all the “role-play” videos, which make up a huge percentage, but they’re some of my favorite ones now.
For example, the first video that ever put me to sleep was titled “Relaxing Makeover *ASMR* *Soft Speaking and Whispering*.” In it, a young woman “welcomed” me to a hair salon and then went through the motions that a real beautician would while giving me a makeover, all the while speaking in a very soft voice or even whispering. This one is just shy of an hour long; to this day, I’ve never heard more than ¼ of it without falling asleep first (even when I’ve tried to stay awake!).
That said, my favorite videos are by another young woman who has her own youtube channel, which she calls “GentleWhispering,” and my favorite video of hers is one titled “Oh such a good 3D—sound ASMR video.” It’s just a little over 15 minutes long, yet I only once made it to the end before falling asleep. Her voice is so soft and soothing that I couldn’t leave it running in the background while I typed this post because it was putting me to sleep again (and please remember, I’ve had trouble with chronic, severe insomnia for almost 50 years).
Although I believe the ASMR videos work well for me because they’re probably hypnotic, actual “hypnotherapy” videos are also available. I won’t personally listen to one without hearing it to the end first (I don’t trust everyone, by any means), but I have listened to the end of one called “Hypnosis for Sleep with Chelsea – Relief Anxiety” that I know I can trust. It features yet another young woman speaking softly with a rhythmic melody playing in the background. Although she doesn’t whisper like the others do, I think her voice, combined with the music, probably is truly hypnotic. Reason being: it works best for me if I listen to it when I want to nap, rather than sleep through the night, because at the end of the video I usually wake up to her saying, “ … seven … eight … nine … ten … welcome back.” In other words, she apparently does hypnotize me, and has to wake me up at the end (just like I’ve seen people do on TV shows!)
My main suggestion is that you find a video that sounds pleasant and then experiment with its sound. Most are too loud for me at first. I turn the sound down on my favorite (“the oh such a good 3D” video) to about a third of its full volume. Another tip: I downloaded an app called RelaxTube for my iPhone, and I put my phone near me under the covers and fall asleep that way, but my son likes to listen to the videos play on his computer across his bedroom. He has completely different favorites, by the way.
The ASMR industry is brand new and just now starting to catch the notice of mainstream America. Please try it yourself, and keep looking until you find one that soothes you. I thank God for ASMR! I learned about it only after praying for help, and I consider it a miraculous answer to those prayers.
I wish for you the peace I finally, finally have at night after all these years. I truly, truly do!
Amber has been writing for more than 25 years. She’s won more than ten competitions, and has been selected by her peers as a judge for several others. She’s been published in numerous publications both online and in print; samples of her work are available at http://www.amber-kay.com and http://www.professional-freelance-writer.com
In Less Than a Second, My Life Changed Forever

The insomnia that had, at times, reduced the quality of my life so drastically that I’ve actually wished for death was almost completely cured in the blink of an eye. I’ve been plagued by the inability to fall asleep easily since I was a little kid. I specifically recall lying in bed when I was about four, listening to the sound of my dad snoring down the hallway, my mind racing …
I’m all alone …
Everyone can sleep but me …
I’m not normal …
I developed a few tricks over the years. The first, when I was still tiny, was to get up after everyone was asleep and sneak into one of their beds where I usually fell asleep quickly. When I was a teen, my most effective method was trying to mentally solve long division problems. Fantasizing that I lived a different life also worked (I can still see the house where my alternate self lived).
When I was 29, that anxious feeling that kept me from falling asleep morphed into panic attacks, thanks to a psychologist I saw because I couldn’t sleep after my second child was born. My baby’s older sister hated him, I had no help, etc., etc. … so, I went to a shrink. It doesn’t’ matter what happened in that office now – I’ve had to learn how to forgive him to survive – but by the time I left he had convinced me that insomnia meant I really wasn’t normal.
Enter alcohol stage left.
Effective as the drinking was, it didn’t help that my husband has always been able to fall asleep in less than five minutes after he lies down. (I’m all alone …everyone can sleep but me …) Flash forward 17 years. When I was 46, personal tragedy struck. I suffered from PTSD for the next year-and-a-half, and it was severe. My daily “dose” of wine no longer worked.
Enter more alcohol stage right and cue the tranquilizers.
Barely able to function from such hangovers, my life began to revolve around the insomnia. I feared the nights through a groggy haze and longed for heaven, where I figured either there is no sleep, or if there is, there will be no sleeplessness.
So I started praying for help and, suddenly, one evening, everything changed. While I was actually discussing insomnia with my then 19-year-old baby, I mentioned that I wished my mother-in-law was still alive, because she used to speak to him as an infant in a quiet, kind of whispery voice that would put me to sleep so fast that I – literally – almost fell out a chair once. I had to ask her back then to stop because she didn’t put the baby to sleep, just me!
He said, kind of matter-of-factly, that was known as ASMR, or “soft speaking and whispering,” and that the videos were all over youtube. I was stunned. As soon as he retired for the night, I ran a search for ASMR on the youtube site on my smartphone and found one that put me to sleep within less than five minutes. The next morning I was joyous. No tranquilizers, no hangover, just wide open blue sky and I was alive. I felt kind of stupid, though, until I dug a little deeper and found that ASMR videos are wildly popular for helping people to relax, which was drastically important to me for two reasons. First, because I finally had an explanation for my inability to sleep – that I just had trouble relaxing, not because I wasn’t “normal” – and, second, because there are, apparently, a lot of other people who also have the same problem! So, I’m not alone, and not everyone else is sleeping but me!
Because of that one word – ASMR – I haven’t had a sleepless night since, I haven’t taken even one more tranquilizer, I don’t feel like I’m “not normal” anymore, my days are productive again – and I no longer do I dread the nights. But, if you decide to try listening to one of these videos to help you relax, just make sure you choose one that’s had a lot of hits (one that’s mainstream) so you don’t wind up listening to something potentially harmful. There are some weird ones out there.
I wish you peace, my friend.
Amber has been writing for more than 25 years. She’s won more than ten competitions, and has been selected by her peers as a judge for several others. She’s been published in numerous publications both online and in print; samples of her work are available at http://www.amber-kay.com and http://www.professional-freelance-writer.com
Dear God,
Thank you for keeping me and my family safe as we slept last night. I wish to thank you for this new day.
Thank you for guiding me through the challenging times and blessing me with the knowledge that I am only getting stronger as a result.
I don’t lack for blessings and I remain thankful.
My wish for today is that our school children (whose last day of school is today here in Jacksonville, Florida) have a safe and happy summer.
May their teachers get some much needed and well-deserved rest.
I am excited about doors that are opening, and chapters that are closing because it is time for them to do so.
Thank you.
Amen,
Debra
“Sleep is the best meditation”
is a famous quote from Dalai Lama.
I certainly agree with the quote as sleep is the healing process of our body. Without proper sleep, you may not feel that much energized and will lack interest in doing work. So, why not to follow a proper discipline of sleep in life? Most often we neglect our sleep and put our work in priority or in youngsters; the party plans and studies becomes important especially at night time. I would comment here that depriving your sleep, will take away the work and parties in a longer run as it will hamper your health. So why not to live life fully as well as enjoy it? I had similar habits, but I recognize its ill effects very soon and there after followed a discipline of good sleep habits and enjoys a better life. How did I achieve this? Well through most basic natural techniques such as meditation and yoga.
I have been given this opportunity to share my ideas and knowledge by Debra. She is quite an inspiration to me and she puts in a lot of hard work working on her website thewarmmilkjournal.com.
I was too tired looking for details on how can I overcome the stress issues that I have developed following an undisciplined life, and then one morning I saw my friend doing funny looking exercises. I was surprised to see such exercises but I kept quiet as it may create a sense of disrespect. Then I just went to her and ask what was she doing? She told me these are yoga exercises and meditation techniques that helps her to reboot the mind and help her to remain active all day. I was quite fascinated by the term she used “reboot the mind” and I started learning about it and slowly & steadily became quite addicted to it. May be I never gave up and kept on pushing myself to perform them.
Here, I will discuss the importance of meditation and its impact on snoring as well as sleep. I will try to bring out some important points as how easy it’s to meditate and perform breathing exercises to help you overcome snoring and sleep disorders as well as get a good sleep.
How To Meditate?
Meditation is the posture where you sit silently and concentrate on your breath.
Sit quietly and concentrate on the way you inhale or exhale. By focusing on your breath inhale and exhale, you can:
1. Relax your body,
2. Reduce stress and other tensions
3. Increase self-confidence and awareness
4. Slow down your metabolism
5. Breathe spontaneously
I am not asking you to do it for hour and hours, just set aside 15 – 20 minutes daily for meditation and you will see the change gradually and will become addicted to it.
Something For People Who Snore Or Are Looking For Snoring Solutions For Their Partner
Chanting Or Reciting
Studies have proved that singing helps to reduce snoring as it controls the muscle of upper throat and soft palate. As per the meditation techniques, chanting “Aum” popularly known as “OM” helps to open the nasal blocked passage which helps to move the air freely and comfortably. Chanting OM not only helps to overcome snoring but also relaxes the body and increase positive energies in the body. For better results, chant OM daily in the early morning for 5 – 10 minutes and notice the changes.
Breathing Exercises
Another phrase of meditation and yoga is popularly known as Pranayama in Sanskrit language. This technique offers various breathing exercise to increase the life strengthening powers in the body. To get better sleep and also to stop snoring a person should try humming breathe that is also called brahmari (Sanskrit word), to clean the nasal passageways.
Steps to perform humming breath:
• Take a comfortable sitting position and inhale properly in a normal way.
• While exhaling, make a humming sound from your nose just like a bee.
• Tolerate the exhale as long as you are comfortable with.
• Repeat the process for few minutes.
Such exercise is a sure way to heal your body against many types of diseases. Especially, I have seen many great improvements in my body itself. My circadian rhythm clock, keeps in tune and I do not suffer any kind of sleep disorders. Especially, I find it very useful in overcoming jet-lag, a type of sleep disorder when you travel to different time zones.
I hope you find this article a worth reading and hope you start practicing such exercises and overcome your sleep related issues.
Bio
Claudine Riddles
My website mysnoringsolutions.info has been setup to give a very clear and easy to understand explanation on sleep disorders and snoring solutions. It includes longer articles or reviews with full explanations as well as short, Q&A type, fun and simple answers to the many questions people may have.
No technical knowledge or medical background is required in order to understand the articles. That is the strength of mysnoringsolutions.info – giving all the information to the people on complicated topics, but in very easy English so that everyone can understand.
Twitter – https://twitter.com/claudineridweb

I used to be afraid of my negative emotions, especially my anger. I didn’t want to feel them, because anger and pain were uncomfortable and their presence made me feel out of control. Trying to hide them from myself didn’t work, though–it just led to me feeling restless, depressed or anxious and stopped me from feeling much of anything at all.
As part of my journey towards wholeness, I’ve learned how to deal with these emotions better. I’ve shifted my perspective on feelings. Now I see them as important sources of information about my life. For example, my anger may be telling me that someone is violating my boundaries or making me uncomfortable; without knowing that, I can’t possibly decide what to do about it.
I like to use a process I call “meditative journaling” to help me understand what my emotions are trying to tell me. Try it out next time you’re battling an emotion you wish you didn’t feel!
Steps to Meditative Journaling:
1. Lie down and close your eyes. Take several deep, slow breaths. As you breathe in, say to yourself, “Welcome anger.” (or whatever emotion you are fighting). As you breathe out say to yourself, “I accept you.”
2. Focus on how your body feels as you continue to breathe. Look for the space in your body where your negative emotion is living.
3. Breathe into the emotion once you find it. Continue to welcome it as you breathe.
4.Ask the emotion what message it has for you. Breathe and listen. Do not try to consciously think of a message; let it come to you.
5. Once you receive the message, thank the emotion and breathe slowly in and out as you bid it farewell.
6. When you are ready, open your eyes. Write in your journal about your experience. Free associate; don’t stop to think or go back to edit. Write for at least 20 minutes.
7. Put your journal aside for a few hours, then reread what you wrote and see what additional insights you received.
This process allows you to honor your emotions without immediately acting on them. It puts you in a more peaceful frame of mind so that you can decide what to do. Get in the habit of meditative journaling regularly. Check out my new coaching program, Rewrite Your Life Script, for other ways you can embrace your emotions and learn from them. You may also want to explore art or music as ways of honoring, expressing and releasing emotion.

Jack Ori has overcome depression, anxiety and feelings of invisibility to create a love-filled life for himself. He now helps others overcome self-sabotage and feelings of powerlessness through writing, meditation and other coaching tools. He is the creator of the Rewrite Your Life Script program (http://rewriteyourlifescript.blogspot.com), which includes a radio series and blog in addition to coaching opportunities. Coach Jack has appeared numerous times on empowering radio shows, most notably Autism Empowerment and Abundance U R It.
Website: http://www.ftmcoachjack.com/
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Are you interested in making some good, healthy choices for your life but feel stuck in a rut? Often it’s so hard just to start, to take those first steps. We have enough on our minds as adults in the real world; who wants to add more ‘stress’?
Even though committing to healthy choices is something you know will reduce stress, the idea of taking on a new practice can be scarier than anything else.
I suggest using the special magic of summer to overcome such hesitations. You might finally dive headfirst into the wonders of keeping a journal, for instance, even though that New Year’s resolution never amounted to anything so far.
Summer’s somehow easier, happier, calmer than other times of the year. The warmth helps, of course, and the general atmosphere of holidays. Nature bears copious fruit in this season, and so can we.
Here are a few suggestions for starting up a healing journaling practice as summer settles in.
1. During the hottest part of the day, find a cool place where you can sit to write. Spend a few minutes experiencing the relief of the coolness. Thinking about the contrast between where you are and how it feels outside in the heat, begin writing. Write from the free flowing stream of your thoughts for at least five minutes. If your pen pauses, return to the image of cool contrasted with heat and continue.
A vitally important but hard-to-grasp understanding in early journaling is that what you write is infinitely less important than keeping the pen moving. Your challenge is to go beyond thought, so you don’t want to remain slave to your brain. Your writing may become messy and nonsensical. This is perfectly fine.
2. Experiment with writing at different times of the day until you find one that particularly resonates. Do you most readily reach for your journal first thing in the morning, or after the kids have gone off to camp, or during the drowsy siesta hour, or maybe as the night wears on?
Regular journaling creates a new bond between you and your inner self. It becomes the time when you face your own truth most honestly and clearly. Consider the journaling time of day that feels best to you. What is your relationship to that hour and what makes it especially right for your journal writing?
3. Use journaling prompts to keep your writing momentum going, or tap into my 27 Days method of self-discovery journaling. Take liberal advantage of summer’s muses. Vacation travels, nature’s abundance, beach or camping or picnic fun, warmth vs. heat, and dreaming about a life of unbroken leisure are all rich sources and worthy topics.
Remember that your journaling for self-discovery is really not about the content you come up with on the page: it’s about increasing inner wealth and peace. Indulge yourself in all summer’s charms without limit: you’ll find they have much to reveal about You!
Mari L. McCarthy is The Journaling Therapy Specialist, founder of Create Write Now, the Personal Growth Journaling Place. Mari offers counseling and encouragement to journal writers through her many online journaling resources, as well as private consultations. Mari’s teachings and workbooks center around journaling for self-discovery, self-growth, and self-healing. Her most recent publication is Perfect Health: 7 Days Journaling Heal Your Body Challenge. A free chapter is available for download.
Summary: Sleep apnea continues to rob millions of African American women of sleep, which can lead to increased risk of several life-threatening conditions. With African Americans at greater risk of the disorder, the question is being asked; to what degree are African American women at risk?
Hundreds of times every night, millions of African American women stop breathing intermittently during sleep for as much as 20 to 30 seconds at a time. Other than the fatigue and lack of alertness, which are just the daily symptoms, most of those women are unaware that they suffer from a growing serious health risk known as obstructive sleep apnea (OSA).
With long term health risks including a dramatically increased risk of heart attack, stroke, hypertension and even some cancers, an increasing amount of statistical evidence from researchers and all quarters of the health continuum show that African Americans are at a greater risk for OSA. This supports the mounting evidence that an increasing percentage of African American women are at risk of the condition.
OSA and African American women
The severity of sleep apnea is measured in events per hour with the apnea-hypopnea index (AHI). An AHI of less than 5 is considered normal. An AHI of 5-15 is mild; 15-30 is moderate and more than 30 events per hour are considered severe sleep apnea.
While the American Sleep Apnea Association says that about 70 percent of people with obstructive sleep apnea (OSA) are overweight or obese, many women of color within normal weight parameters suffer from the disorder. However, a 2004 study sponsored by the National Institute of Health did find shared and unshared genetic factors that may affect the risk of both obesity and sleep apnea in African Americans.
Like most health conditions, OSA has not received the same level of study in African Americans and particularly African American women as with Caucasians. However, one of the first studies was profiled by the American Academy of Sleep Medicine that showed middle aged, pre-menopausal African American women to be more likely to suffer from OSA symptoms than their white counterparts.
OSA awareness
Although awareness of OSA in the African American community is growing, there continues to be a marked lack of women that take the initiative to be screened for the disorder. Melissa Bynes Brooks, the Clinical Coordinator of Broward Health Coral Springs Sleep Disorders Center and editor of Brooks Sleep Review recently penned an article with some startling statistics regarding African Americans and OSA. The article entitled
“Why Are Black People Dying in Their Sleep” discussed a community-based sample of 421 Black patients referred by their private care physicians where only 38 percent followed the recommendation for a sleep consultation.
Currently, the gold standard treatment for OSA is Continuous Positive Airway Pressure (CPAP) therapy. CPAP therapy requires the patient to wear a mask that is connected to a
CPAP machine that supplies a regulated stream of air to the sleeping patient. This serves to increase the flow of oxygen and reduce the apnea events as well as reduce the short-term and long-term health risks of OSA.
According to a recent study, 93 percent of women and 82 percent of men with moderate to severe OSA have not been clinically diagnosed. Research also shows that nearly 80 percent of African Americans suffer from sleep disorder symptoms. Of those African Americans that do get diagnosed and start CPAP therapy, compliance remains a significant roadblock.
A recent article urging African American CPAP Compliance was one of an increasing number urging them to utilize the life-saving therapy.
Spreading the good news for health
Famous African Americans are beginning to do their part as well. As part of the Harvard Medical School Division of Sleep Medicine’s
expanded online OSA information repository on OSA, Shaquille O’Neal who suffers from sleep apnea, has included an informational video on the disorder aimed at African Americans.
OSA affects an estimated 15 million to 20 million Americans, as well as millions more who remain undiagnosed and untreated. Sleep apnea robs the body and the brain of sufficient oxygen, which in the short-term manifests itself in daytime sleepiness, fatigue, brain fog, and headaches. While these symptoms can clearly be improved for most people with OSA that utilize CPAP masks and machines, the brain itself can also be positively affected.
Although there are clearly many people and experts from all quarters sounding the alarm for African American women regarding OSA, the lack of significant widespread studies keeps the disorder off of the radar of the millions of black women that are living with the symptoms of OSA and the higher long-term health risks that it brings.
Outreach regarding the tools and tactics that benefit the health of African American women is clearly working overall as the life expectancy and overall health of this significant sector of society improves in many ways. Increased diligence and communication to spread the word regarding OSA is the key to helping African American women help themselves to lead healthier, longer, more productive and happier lives.
Bio:
E. Victor Brown is a freelance writer specializing in health and health technology and its effects on the health of African Americans. His research and writing has covered Sleep Disorder Breathing, OSA and by extension, the technology and use of a CPAP Machine and CPAP Masks as part of effective therapy for African Americans and other populations.
I would like to offer you an opportunity to submit a guest post for The Warm Milk Journal. Our readership continues to grow and is now getting over 11,000 visitors from around the world a month. We have hundreds of followers on our Facebook page and at this writing, 16,461 people following us on Twitter.
I will share and market your post as much as I would my own. If your post is published here, I expect you to do the same.
A few guidelines:
1. Familiarize yourself with our site first. Our content is a bit eclectic. We welcome anything that supports living a well balanced life by day and sleeping restfully at night. Most posts are pretty short in length.
2. Sample topics may include anything to do with: insomnia, anxiety, health and wellness, journal writing, what makes us happy, how to relax and overcome stress, spirituality, meditation, poetry, travel, bedroom design and decor, etc.
3. People I would like to hear from: any person who is challenged and has solutions for above topics, people from the health and wellness industry, medical providers such as: doctors, nurses, counselors, yoga instructors, massage therapists, chiropractors, etc., hospitality industry (hotel managers or B&B owners), travel industry, mattress companies, sleep aid products, feng shui experts, etc.
4. Note, it is fine that you have a product or service but please offer content of value to our readership. I will not publish anything that is strictly a marketing piece.
5. Your submission needs to be an original post (not published on your own site or anywhere else).
6. Interested? Please email me: Debratech@msn.com. Attach your article via an editable Word document. You may include a brief bio, link to your site, and a photo you would like me to use.
This blogging journey has been a tremendously rewarding one. There is nothing like feeling passionate about something and sharing it with others. I feel very blessed to be sharing this experience with you. I am excited to see what comes of this. We are never alone and we can always learn from each other. I think it will be wonderful for you to be able to share here at The Warm Milk Journal and for our readership to enjoy new content from different voices.
Happy Writing!
In Peace,
Debra
I have recently experienced panic,
and empowerment.
Joy,
and deep sorrow.
Feeling victorious,
and then beaten down.
Inspired,
and stuck.
The human condition puts us through the ringer so to speak. We definitely have our peaks and valleys. When I am despairing and dying of thirst in the midst of death valley, I find it helpful to remember that:
1. This too shall pass.
2. Change is part of life.
3. I am strong.
4. My emotions are simply emotions. I don’t have to attach any more meaning to them than I would passing clouds in the sky above me.
As I write this, there is a storm brewing in North Florida. Thunder booms and the rain is coming down.
The thunder outside, like our anger with its temper and tantrums… will subside and go away in due time.
The rain, like our tears that flow and flood our anguished faces at times, will stop.
The sun will come out again. We will be centered and feel peace again.
And so it is.
In Peace,
Debra