A year ago I was curious about Twitter. I knew about Facebook but I thought,what is this Twitter thing all about? I got to playing with it and I have to say it has been one of the most incredible social experiences of my life (and trust me, I am not the most technical person in the world).
Well, it has been quite a year. For the fun of it, I thought I would list some highlights of what I have learned on Twitter:
1. You get back what you put out there
2. Be generous
3. Be kind
4. People can smell a phony
5. People appreciate it if you truly care
6. It’s fun to get silly once in a while
7. We all want to be heard
8. We all want to be affirmed
9. Even the shyest of us have important voices and stories and ideas to share…
10. The world isn’t so small after all
11. We have more in common than differences
12. Life can be just one giant party with the right perspective
13. You are never alone
14. If you are willing to reach out, even just a wee bit, there is so much support out there…
15. It really all comes down to love, in our personal lives and in the Twitterverse.
This post is dedicated to the many wonderful people I have met on this journey. I don’t know where it’s all heading but I gotta believe it is someplace pretty incredibly great!
A blessed good night,
P.S. If you haven’t joined us yet, please do. My Twitter name is @WarmMilkJournal
Footsteps in the sand,
you are so forgiving. You get washed away so many times, and yet
you just start anew, freshly with
you don’t look back; only forward- blazingly imprinting one step,
and then another. Forging ahead.
On this trail of yours is there one step
more important than another?
Is the first step more significant than those
that follow it?
Does the size of the step matter? Or the pattern
you make on the beach?
Dearest footsteps in the sand, while you exist you have a direction.
Your trail is one of imperfection and impermanence among
a majestic setting of ocean tides and vast beach; of sand dunes and sunsets;
of moonlight and sunrises…
Your lesson perhaps is one of taking first steps, as tiny as they may seem
and keeping the trail by moving one foot in front of the other
no matter what- for that is what
footsteps do. You continue to
create a path providing there are feet that do the walking.
In my lifetime people pleasing has probably been the leading cause of: loss of sleep, worry, anxiety, holding myself back, missed opportunities, and lines on my face.
Perhaps from the time I was a little girl I got conditioned to not just want but absolutely need the approval of my father and when I started school, my teachers. Then when I started my first job, my bosses.
Throughout the years I conducted myself being mindful or thinking about what others thought of me. What did they think of how I looked? What I wore? Who I hung out with? What I did for a living? What my house looked like? How my kids behave? What I said? What car I drove? The agonizing list can go on.
Those of you who are prone to anxiety like I am can relate to this I’m sure. In the past few years I decided that I am tired of living this way- for others. What I need to be doing is making sure I am okay with myself. What others think really does not have to have any control or power over me. This is not an easy task, the shedding of people pleasing. We people pleasers of the world seem to have the mandate of “being nice and perfect” firmly entrenched in our psyches.
I believe that if one can lick the people pleasing thing, peace of mind, a happier life, and much more restful nights of sleep are at hand for the taking.
Sound good? Here are some ideas that are helping me. I can’t say I am completely cured of my people pleasing yet but I, at age 44, am much better than I was even a few years ago.
My list of ten people pleasing blasters:
I will stop here for tonight. This is a subject I feel very strongly about for it is something that has really affected my life. If I can assist in any way to support you in extinguishing people pleasing from your life agenda, then I will be happy.
In peace (and total confidence in myself),
P.S. I hope that you have found value in this article. If not, I bless you but I will not lose sleep over it. Okay? : )
Sometimes life just doesn’t happen the way we want it to: people aren’t acting the way we want, circumstances come about that mess up our expectations and plans. As a younger woman, I had a real hard time with this. I am learning now how important being flexible and going with the flow really are. In a recent post we explored the idea of how we react to circumstances is more important than the events or circumstances themselves. I really believe this. Once we get this, our lives are so much more peaceful and happy.
Ten Ideas to consider:
Debra : )