A year ago I was curious about Twitter. I knew about Facebook but I thought,what is this Twitter thing all about? I got to playing with it and I have to say it has been one of the most incredible social experiences of my life (and trust me, I am not the most technical person in the world).
Well, it has been quite a year. For the fun of it, I thought I would list some highlights of what I have learned on Twitter:
1. You get back what you put out there
2. Be generous
3. Be kind
4. People can smell a phony
5. People appreciate it if you truly care
6. It’s fun to get silly once in a while
7. We all want to be heard
8. We all want to be affirmed
9. Even the shyest of us have important voices and stories and ideas to share…
10. The world isn’t so small after all
11. We have more in common than differences
12. Life can be just one giant party with the right perspective
13. You are never alone
14. If you are willing to reach out, even just a wee bit, there is so much support out there…
15. It really all comes down to love, in our personal lives and in the Twitterverse.
This post is dedicated to the many wonderful people I have met on this journey. I don’t know where it’s all heading but I gotta believe it is someplace pretty incredibly great!
A blessed good night,
P.S. If you haven’t joined us yet, please do. My Twitter name is @WarmMilkJournal
I welcome the new day.
May I not rush around so much that I miss the beauty that is all around me.
May I thank one person today.
May I smile more than I frown.
May I think loving thoughts more than self defeating thoughts.
Thank you for this day!
When I was a child we learned a prayer that we sang, giving thanks to God. It went something like this:
Baruch atah Adonai, Thank you God!
Thank you for my mommy, thank you for my dad-
Thank you for my……
I can hear the tune in my head but I don’t remember the rest of the words. Essentially, we sang a list of things that we were thankful for. We sang about the blessings in our life. We acknowledged and thanked God for them.
My childhood religion happened to be Reformed Judaism. I am sure that no matter what religious background you were brought up in, you may remember something from your childhood too? A bedtime prayer perhaps? Giving thanks at the dinner table?
The practice of gratitude is so important and powerful. I believe life just works better when we come from a place of thanks and we are mindful of our blessings. Life is so rich! Let’s be thankful for each day.
I encourage us today during our quiet reflective times to express a prayer of thanks to God, the Universe, or whatever spiritually works for you. In your journals, you can write down a list of things you are thankful for. You can think of them during a meditation or while taking a walk. You can sing them to a tune like I did as a child.
The feeling of gratitude can show up in the way you go about your day today: your stride, how much you smile at others, how kind you are to other drivers on the highway etc.
I feel so blessed and thankful for many things on this morning.
Baruch Atah Adonai, Thank You God!
Debra : )
The sky is dark and thunder is rumbling here this afternoon in Northeast Florida. It’s a good time to sip on my tea and write.
Here are ten writing prompts for your next journal writing session when you have a rainstorm happening or anytime you are ready for some quiet, reflective time.
Debra : )
Some of us who are prone to anxiety are what you would call: “people pleasers”. That is, we worry about what others think of us. We are “nice” people and want others to be happy, often at the expense of our own well being.
How do you know that you are a people pleaser?
Do any of these sound like you? I came up with a long list here and could probably think of more because I myself have been a people pleaser most of my life. I am here to tell you right now, that people pleasing really sucks!!
A few years ago, I decided that life is just too short to live like this. Enough was enough. I worked a lot on myself and created a lot of change to be the person I wanted to be and have the life that I wanted for myself. I have read a lot, journaled a lot, meditated a lot, spent time with wonderful mentors, attended Lifestream, and attended a Tony Robbins’ program about finding the power within ourselves.
I’m not totally “cured” of my people pleasing. I’ll get little doses of it, here and there. I still don’t assert myself at work as much as I need to. I am still not the most extroverted person at a party. I still sometimes take things personally when I know I shouldn’t. But over all, I am so much better. No longer is my people pleasing causing that anxiety monster to keep me up at night. I am no longer on anti-anxiety medication. I am challenging myself with a new career, new residence, new projects, new relationship, new people, new interests, new ideas, and new experiences. I am not obsessively worrying about what others are thinking of me or worrying if I offended somebody with what I said or did.
If people pleasing and the anxiety that inherently comes with it has been an issue for you and holding you back in life, then I encourage you to work on this. It will free you tremendously. We all deserve to live the most fulfilling lives possible. The world needs us. We are not going to be as fulfilled as we can be and be of service to others and the world if we are keeping ourselves in bondage with all of this anxious people pleasing.
So, the answer? Just quit it!
Here are some ideas to put a halt to your people pleasing now and begin to live the life you were intended to live:
I am going to stop here for now. This is a longer post than I usually write but obviously it is a subject I feel very strongly about. People pleasing and the anxiety that goes with it is a form of torture that we impose on ourselves. I know it. I’ve done it to myself most of my life. It can be absolutely debilitating at its worst. At the very least, even a mild case of it can really keep us from “going for it”! And truly living the lives we were meant to live.
The Warm Milk Journal is about living the life of our dreams by day and sleeping restfully at night.
If we can cancel the people pleasing subscription from our lives I would say we are well on our way!
Have a blessed day.
Debra : )
Goodnight small children, their parents, and friends.
Goodnight to all those who worked hard and tried their best.
Goodnight to humble beginnings and rewarding finishes.
Goodnight to the hopes and prayers of people with loved ones serving overseas.
Goodnight to beauty.
Sometimes life just doesn’t happen the way we want it to: people aren’t acting the way we want, circumstances come about that mess up our expectations and plans. As a younger woman, I had a real hard time with this. I am learning now how important being flexible and going with the flow really are. In a recent post we explored the idea of how we react to circumstances is more important than the events or circumstances themselves. I really believe this. Once we get this, our lives are so much more peaceful and happy.
Ten Ideas to consider:
Debra : )