To live a well balanced, rewarding life of our dreams by day and sleep restfully at night.
Perfectionism is overrated: Getting over people pleasing.
Published June 17, 2012 | 
I’ve always admired and envied those people that were confident, ballsy, and just didn’t give a rip about what others thought. These are the types that just say what’s on their minds, knew what they wanted to major in in college, tend to do well in business, and (I’m assuming) sleep peacefully at night.
Me, on the other hand… I always had to be “perfect little Debbie”. I sat on the front row in my classroom always with my hand shooting up with the correct answer for my teacher. It was important to me that my teachers adored me. I had to make straight As (an A- would have been absolutely devastating).
For those of you who have been visiting here a while you know I am naturally an introvert and have been challenged with social anxiety my whole life. The funny thing is if you met me you probably would never guess. I am not a wall-flower, am quite friendly, and on the surface can appear very outgoing. It would not be until I am home from meeting you that I might stay awake at night worrying about the impression I gave to you…
Well, “sweet perfect little Debbie” is now 45 years old and is figuring some things out for herself…
It really doesn’t matter what others think.
I Am enough and perfect just as I am.
It is quite fun and exhilarating to stretch myself and do things that are outside of my comfort zone.
If any of you out there can relate to this, I encourage you to stretch a bit. Don’t worry so much…
Have fun and do what you want (providing you are not breaking any laws)!
For as far as I know this life is what we’ve got. And we’ve heard it be said and it’s true:
LIFE IS NOT A DRESS REHEARSAL!!!
With love,
Debra
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I loved this post. I started stretching myself a few years ago, and I even read the book, I am Enough. It was very helpful. I am also an introvert, but you wouldn’t know. Being in a crowd of people takes a lot of work and energy, but because of my job, I often do it. I also do public speaking. All of these things I changed to do what I love, writing. Thanks for writing about it.~~Dee
Love your posts. I can completely identify with this! And, I’m raising two daughters, a 9 year old daughter who seems to have some very similar traits, and a 6 year old who is the complete opposite. Any advice for rearing the next generation and mitigating the anxiety issues?