“I celebrate myself, and sing myself” ~ Walt Whitman
Not accepting ourselves can cause much anxiety and loss of sleep. We grow up in a society where fitting in is all-important. You could not pay me enough money to go back and be a teenager again (my daughter is 13 now, bless her heart). The pressure to be like the others was so great. I tried a lot of things that really were not authentic and genuine for me at the time- but I so wanted to feel like the other girls.
Even as an adult, I’ve experienced times of feeling inadequate in some way; of being different and somehow being on the sidelines because of that perceived difference.
I now know that I put myself on the sidelines. I caused myself much pain, anxiety, and loss of sleep over the years because of my fear of “if the world really knew what I am like it would not like me” kind of thinking.
If any of you out there experience shyness and social anxiety you know what I am talking about. This kind of non-acceptance of our true selves is brutal and debilitating.
We are meant to shine. Each and every one of us has something special to offer. We are enough. Just as we are.
For a lot of my childhood and early adult years I suffered from a lot of sore throats and strep throat. Louise Hay wrote a wonderful book a while back called “Heal Your Body”. In it, she describes ailments of the throat coming from the inability to speak up for one’s self. For those of us who are shy or have some form of social anxiety, this may resonate.
I truly believe:
1. that our voices are meant to be heard.
2. Not only is it okay, but it is fantastic to be different.
3. Being like everybody else is boring.
4. Our uniqueness makes the world a much more interesting place.
5. If we were to truly accept ourselves and live authentically (without worrying what others think), we would discover a blissful place of peace,
acceptance, much less anxiety, greater self-confidence, and sound nights of sleep.