To be centered in love, to make love our guiding compass is a worthwhile goal.
If we are living our lives centered in love we are:
1. More patient
2. More kind
3. Feel more connected to God
4. Enjoy more intimacy with others.
5. Enjoy better relationships with family, friends, and colleagues.
6. We smile more.
7. We are healthier.
8. We sleep better at night.
9. We experience less anxiety.
10. We make better decisions.
11. We feel more satisfied with our life in all areas.
All wonderful benefits, to be sure. Alas, it is not always easy to be centered in love all of the time. We are imperfect humans. We all have our flesh wounds from the past that may be triggered at some point. We have our “hot buttons”. We just plain have our off days when we are not doing or being our best. What then?
If we can catch ourselves and become aware of the fact that we are not in the most loving state, that is a fantastic start.
Then, forgive ourselves. We are human. We are doing our best. Let it go and start over.
Here are a few ideas that are helping me to stay centered in love (most of the time) or when I get off the path a bit, help to nudge me back on it….
1. Breathe deeply (especially when I feel an upset coming on…)
2. If I am upset with someone, try to remember that my anger or hurt feelings probably has more to do with an old issue from my past than with this person presently with me…
3. Appreciate, appreciate, appreciate. Gratitude is the best love elixir around, And it’s free!
4. Forgive frequently. If we permit resentment to take the place of forgiveness we are killing love and so much good we can have in our lives and in our most important relationships.
5. Ask frequently, what is most important here?
6. If you find yourself really upset with somebody, try to imagine them as an innocent five year old. We really all are doing our best in our own way. We all have our moments when we say the wrong thing, step on someone’s toes, do something that could be perceived as insensitive or selfish. Most of these acts prove that we are human and not perfect. 99.9% of the time it is not intentional. We do not intend to hurt someone else. So the message? …
7. DON’T TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY. And it is worth repeating,
8. FORGIVE, and return to a state of love.
Have a blessed day,
Debra : )