Feelings of anger, hurt, and resentment hurt us if we hold onto them. The best way to truly let these feelings go is through forgiveness. If we are really upset with someone else (or ourselves) this is not an easy task. Forgiveness is not easy but with practice and using certain techniques you can do it. It is essential that you do it for your health and well being.
I want to share with you one simple technique that I learned some years ago and it works. Sit down and get very relaxed. Close your eyes and breathe. Just be still and focus on your breath for several minutes. When you are ready, think of the person who hurt you, who you are angry at, or who you have been resenting for a long time. This person could be anybody: an ex-spouse, a parent, a politician or leader, an employer, friend, rapist, yourself, etc.
You have your reasons for feeling the way you do about this person. They are valid. Now, however, it is time to release the anger and hurt. Imagine this person as the six year old child that he or she was at one time. Picture that adorable innocent child looking at you. Look at his eyes. Look at her little arms and bashful smile… Imagine this child needing your love and understanding. In your imagination give them a hug and embrace them. Whisper to them that you forgive them and you wish them well. Then let them go.
Do this as often as it takes until you feel healed. You will in time. This is a very powerful exercise.
Debra : )